Caught You Being Good

 We are huge supporters of reinforcing good behavior around here. If you do something you are not supposed to, there are consequences and when you do something good, there are rewards. We have tried many different approaches over the years, either starting with points and losing them, or starting with none and gaining them. At the moment, we are using the start with none method. Here's how it works. Each child needs to gain 10 marks in order to receive an award. This number can be adjusted due to age of course. My son is 5, he needs to get 10 marks.

Chart

He gains marks by doing good things, like, not whining in the grocery store and staying close, having a no time-out day, helping his little sister when he is asked or even if he hasn't been, being extra kind, following rules he may get stuck on sometimes. For example,  if your kidlet mostly takes a toy from someone else without saying 'share please', when they do use their words, they get a mark and the proper behavior is rewarded. See?



When the kidlets earn a point, they get to mark it on the chart. I laminated ours, hung it on our fridge and we use a dry erase marker take tally. Once they receive 10 marks, they get to pick a reward out of the reward jar. Again, adjust according to age. Write all your rewards down on craft sticks and place them in the jar. I Mod Podged my label onto the jar, and put in the sticks, done! Easy peasy!





This is what is in the jar at the moment:

-Choose from the treasure chest (these are just dollar store items, stickers, stamps, toys, pencils etc.)
-Backwards lunch (they get to eat their dessert first!)
-Go to Library (This is supposed to be above and beyond regular library time, maybe we borrow a movie or go just the two of us)
-Picnic Dinner (Eat dinner on a blanket in the living room or outside)

Rewards

-Movie Rental
-Trip to variety store
-Pick dessert (we don't typically have dessert, so this is a big deal)
-Play computer game
-New colouring page print out
-Ride at mall (you know those rides you put a quarter in?)
-Download new book
-Go to museum
-Chew some gum
-Make a fort 
-Go to indoor jungle gym
-Make jello together
-Date night with Mom or Dad
-$5.00 for the store or piggy bank

Not all rewards go through every reward round, if my son picks Date Night, that comes out of the jar for a month. All small rewards go back in the jar for rotation again.You can come up with any type of reward and determine what qualifies. Use your own judgement! Come up with your system together as a family and the kidlets will be more excited to follow along. As always, make a big deal and praise, praise, praise! Reward jar labels and charts are available here.

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