Friday, 24 February 2012

Caught You Being Good

 We are huge supporters of reinforcing good behavior around here. If you do something you are not supposed to, there are consequences and when you do something good, there are rewards. We have tried many different approaches over the years, either starting with points and losing them, or starting with none and gaining them. At the moment, we are using the start with none method. Here's how it works. Each child needs to gain 10 marks in order to receive an award. This number can be adjusted due to age of course. My son is 5, he needs to get 10 marks.

Chart
He gains marks by doing good things, like, not whining in the grocery store and staying close, having a no time-out day, helping his little sister when he is asked or even if he hasn't been, being extra kind, following rules he may get stuck on sometimes. For example,  if your kidlet mostly takes a toy from someone else without saying 'share please', when they do use their words, they get a mark and the proper behavior is rewarded. See?



When the kidlets earn a point, they get to mark it on the chart. I laminated ours, hung it on our fridge and we use a dry erase marker take tally. Once they receive 10 marks, they get to pick a reward out of the reward jar. Again, adjust according to age. Write all your rewards down on craft sticks and place them in the jar. I Mod Podged my label onto the jar, and put in the sticks, done! Easy peasy!





This is what is in the jar at the moment:

-Choose from the treasure chest (these are just dollar store items, stickers, stamps, toys, pencils etc.)
-Backwards lunch (they get to eat their dessert first!)
-Go to Library (This is supposed to be above and beyond regular library time, maybe we borrow a movie or go just the two of us)
-Picnic Dinner (Eat dinner on a blanket in the living room or outside)
Rewards
-Movie Rental
-Trip to variety store
-Pick dessert (we don't typically have dessert, so this is a big deal)
-Play computer game
-New colouring page print out
-Ride at mall (you know those rides you put a quarter in?)
-Download new book
-Go to museum
-Chew some gum
-Make a fort 
-Go to indoor jungle gym
-Make jello together
-Date night with Mom or Dad
-$5.00 for the store or piggy bank

Not all rewards go through every reward round, if my son picks Date Night, that comes out of the jar for a month. All small rewards go back in the jar for rotation again.You can come up with any type of reward and determine what qualifies. Use your own judgement! Come up with your system together as a family and the kidlets will be more excited to follow along. As always, make a big deal and praise, praise, praise! Reward jar labels and charts are available here.


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28 comments:

  1. i love this idea! treats and prizes are the best and totally worth being good!

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    1. I know right? Too bad it doesn't work when you're 30 :/ Thanks for stopping by!

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  2. Hi Shantalle! Thank you so much for the comment on my blog! I just read this post and I am SOOO going to use your ideas! My son is nearly 4, and I think he is totally ready for this. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, advice and thoughts.

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    1. Thank you Emily, that is soo sweet of you! I would love to hear how it goes with your little guy!!

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  3. Love this, Shantalle. I love to switch up my reward systems and need to be more focused on that area anyway. Thanks for the inspiration.

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    1. Thanks Jodi! We have flipped back between a few different ideas but this one seems to work the best (it doesn't get old) My 2.5 year old gets excited when she earns a mark, even though she participates in a lot of the rewards anyway ;)

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  4. I love this idea!! Thank you for sharing it at Sharing Saturday! Have a great week!

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  5. Great idea!! New follower from the hop, hope you come by :) Have a great weekend!

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    1. Hi, welcome! Coming over to check your neighbourhood out!!

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  6. I'm sending this link to my sister. Ncholas is going through the famous Naughty Twos!!!

    Just came over from Serenity.

    bye
    Lesley
    Bath Bomb Creations (linkys each Sunday)

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    1. Hi! I hope Nicholas enjoys collecting marks as much as my two year old does! She asked me this morning if she gets a mark for being so smart. Clever offer...but no ;)

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  7. I love all the suggestions for your rewards! As an aside: You only pay a quarter for your mall rides - not fair! Ours are £1 for a single ride or £2 for 3 rides. Highway robbery :-)

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    1. Lol! Thank you! We have to put a few quarters in but I believe your dollar is 2 of our dollars, which yes, would be highway robbery ;)

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  8. This is such a great idea. I would love for you to Link up at my Linky party via: www.ourdelightfulhome.blogspot.com

    PS: I am your newest Linky Follower

    Mrs. Delightful
    www.ourdelightfulhome.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you! All linked up and following you, thanks you for the invite!

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  9. I love this! I pinned it, hope that was okay. I definitely want to start something like this when my little boy is a little older.

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    1. Absolutely!! Pin away!! Thanks for stopping by, hope to see you again!

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  10. This is great Shantalle!!! I also use reward points for my eldest son, and then he get's to 'buy' something with them from the prize box!!

    Featuring this on Serenity Saturday link Party tomorrow!!

    Natasha xxx

    www.serenityyou.blogspot.com

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    1. Yayyyy!! That's so exciting! Thank you so much Natasha, you have really made my day! See you tomorrow! *hugs*

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  11. Shantalle! This is so, so smart! I have been wanting to start implementing some type of reward system for Little Man. I love the tallies on the laminated chart. And the rewards are perfect. Good job mama!!

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    1. Ahh, thanks Alison! My little girl is 2.5 and she is just starting to want to gather them. I think she likes getting marks more than the actual reward :)

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  12. I've been thinking lately that I need to reinforce my children's positive behavior's. I'm going to be trying this. Thanks for all the fun reward ideas!
    Thanks for sharing at Terrific Tuesdays.
    Rachel
    adventuresofadiymom.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much Rachel. Positive reinforcement is definitely rewarding on both ends ;)

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  13. Love this idea! It's so important to reward good behavior! Thanks so much for sharing at Taking A Timeout Thursday!

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